In His Own Words
About him
I'm an artist and gentle person first and foremost. I can fix almost anything, even if I have to learn all about it first. I actually CAN'T stop sculpting and drawing and doing science experiments usually involving light or complex motion/entropy. I'll tell you about that more in messages... I love to cook, chat shallow if needed but preferably deep! I love a good discussion on a thing if it's a thing I CAN even talk about... I LOVE music and have rich and varied tastes that range from Aphex Twin to Ween to Holst.. That slightly funny range repeats throughout me in different areas of interest... I formed as it were in isolation as a kid, then more isolation as an adult for various reasons I'm happy to explain. So this basically leads to my being a very unusual mixture of things and qualities... That's best discovered naturally but happy to explain if you'd like to ask the questions.... Recently separated from long term wife who was 20 years my senior. NOT looking to replace her. Just looking to not waste ANY more time here. I remained celebate for the whole marriage of well.... a long time. This DOESN'T mean I'm just after sex. What I want first and foremost is connection emotionally and shared interests., Kindness... oneness... however that manifests...
About his ideal match
Ideals aren't something I'd usually think it a good idea to look for... But since that's the question here... Let me see..... Have to be kind, but have to be honest... That's not difficult at all...
Ok let us set sex aside altogether first shall we. I haven't been there for so many years that it's odd to even say the word now..
I'm still a man that would like man things sure... But I'm not about to turn a beautiful soul down if she either doesn't want to go there or will need a long time to trust or the like. That's me too a bit here I suppose. Slow and steady wins the race... Although that's a terrible reverse sex metaphor I now realise. hahaha Well that wasn't setting sex aside really was it. So that's sex talked about then... Now the really important bit. Any women that will like me and be a personality fit, will be gentle and kind. and patient as an unstoppable habit... Anger problems are a "deal breaker" right away. All else will likely gently melt when around me anyway.... Lets not call it an ideal... I find it easier here to call it a pipe dream... My pipe dream is a gentle soul who knows her worth and needs another gentle loving soul first and foremost... ;) The rest gets written by nature..... 🌸 😎 🌸 (I like to write poetry sometimes so if you like that, you'll find me unusual first, then with patience you'll see the beauty behind the initial oddness... Maybe you won;t even notice any strangeness if you are another artist or kindred spirit of the many kinds that would most surely see me for who I am. But at first casual glance I can seem strange, clunky conversationally, slightly nervous maybe....... But obviously as an artist that comes with the territory ! That will change with some time and patience as it always does with new people..... ;)
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About him
Country of origin: |
United Kingdom | |
Location: |
Crediton, Devon, England | |
Gender: |
Male | |
Age: |
48 | |
Star sign: |
Scorpio | |
Height: |
6' 0" (183cm) | |
Body type: |
A few extra pounds | |
Looks: |
Attractive | |
Hair colour: |
Dark Brown | |
Eye colour: |
Brown | |
Relationship Status: |
Separated | |
Looking for: |
Just online friends; Let's see what happens; A long-term relationship | |
Have children: |
No | |
Want children: |
Maybe | |
Daily diet: |
Vegetarian | |
Smoking: |
Never | |
Drinking: |
Never | |
Education: |
Secondary | |
Occupation: |
Retired | |
Income: |
Enough | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home language: |
English | |
Other languages: |
None | |
Religion: |
Buddhist / Taoist |
About his ideal match
Country of origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Within 100 miles of postcode district EX17 (Crediton) | ||
Gender: |
Female | ||
Age range: |
30 - 50 | ||
Star sign: |
Cancer; Virgo; Scorpio; Capricorn; Pisces | ||
Height: |
4' 10" (147cm) - 6' 11" (210cm) or taller | ||
Body type: |
Slim; Average; Athletic; A few extra pounds; Other | ||
Looks: |
Attractive | ||
Hair colour: |
Any | ||
Eye colour: |
Any | ||
Has a photo: |
Decidedly important | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Separated; Divorced; Widowed; It's Complicated | ||
Have children: |
Any | ||
Want children: |
Any | ||
Daily diet: |
Eat healthily | ||
Smoking: |
Never; Trying to Quit | ||
Drinking: |
Never; Occasionally; Several times a week | ||
Education: |
Further education | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Any | ||
Ethnicity: |
Asian; Latino/Hispanic; Middle Eastern; White/Caucasian; Other; Mixed | ||
Home language: |
English; Afrikaans; Chinese; Croatian; Danish; Dutch; Farsi/Persian; Filipino / Tagalog; Finnish; French; Gaelic / Irish; German; Greek; Italian; Japanese; Norwegian; Portuguese; Spanish; Swedish; Vietnamese; Other | ||
Other languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Agnostic; Atheist; Buddhist / Taoist; Christian / Catholic; Christian / Protestant; Christian / Other; Jewish; Spiritual, but not religious; Other; Christian / Orthodox |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More about him
Sense of humour: |
Obscure |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The head |
Party behaviour: |
A wallflower |
Personality traits: |
Adventurous; Ambitious; Cautious; Daring; Easygoing; Faithful; Funny; Generous; Happy; Independent; Intelligent; Loving; Loyal; Mild; Optimistic; Philosophical; Quiet; Realistic; Sensible; Shy; Stable; Thoughtful; Trustworthy |
Valued qualities: |
Chemistry; Compassion; Contentment; Faithfulness; Forgiveness; Friendliness; Honesty; Hope; Humility; Humour; Kindness; Mercy; Patience; Self-control; Tolerance |
Fashion sense: |
Alternative (I'm stylish in my own special way) |
Favourite clothing: |
Shorts & a T-shirt |
Favourite colour: |
Other |
Hair style: |
Short |
Eyesight: |
I wear glasses only when reading |
Facial hair: |
I have a goatee |
Body hair: |
Smooth |
Disabilities: |
I struggle with mobility; I have a chronic illness |
Body art: |
Several tattoos |
Date activities: |
A movie; A music concert; A picnic in a park; Dinner at a restaurant; Going to the theatre; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Going for a walk; Visiting a gallery; Going to a museum |
Music preferences: |
Alternative; Blues; Classical; Dance / Disco; Electronic Dance Music; Folk; Heavy Metal; Instrumental; Jazz; Punk; Reggae; World |
Books: |
Fantasy; Fiction; History; Non-fiction; Sci-Fi; Science / Technology; Self-help |
TV habits: |
I rarely watch television |
TV programmes: |
Cartoons; Comedy / Sit-coms; Cooking / Baking; Documentaries; Educational; Movie Channels; Music Channels; Nature/Wildlife; Sci-Fi |
Movie frequency: |
Never |
Movie preferences: |
Art Films; Black & White / Silent; Comedy; Cult Classics; Documentary; Horror; Independent; Mystery; Sci-Fi |
Interests: |
Board games; Card games; Cooking; Gardening; Healthy living; Internet; Knitting; Meditation; Music; Painting; Photography; Reading; Sculpting; Singing; The arts; Woodwork; Writing poetry |
Sport involvement: |
Bored to death |
Sports: |
Archery; Backgammon; Badminton; Birdwatching; Camping; Chess; Flying / Gliding; Ice Skating; Shooting |
Cooking: |
I love it! |
Food: |
Asian Fusion; Chinese; Gastro Pub; Indian; Pub Grub; Thai; Vietnamese |
Go Out to Eat: |
I always cook at home |
Pace of Life: |
Chilled |
Time at work: |
I work at home |
Pastimes of choice: |
Pursuing a hobby |
Time online: |
I'm on several hours a day |
Take drugs: |
Never |
Family size: |
I don't have any family |
Family contact: |
I moved to be away from them |
Relationship Type: |
I'm in the middle of a divorce |
Willing to Relocate: |
For the right person, to the moon! |
Animals: |
I love my pet(s) |
Pets (Have): |
Bird(s); Other |
Pets (Like): |
Cat(s); Dog(s); Exotic pet(s); Fish; Reptile(s); Rodent(s); Horse(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Assertiveness; Dancing; Flirting; Intelligence; Showing affection in public |
Turn-offs: |
Power; Sarcasm |
Work aspirations: |
I already have my ideal job |
Religious attendance: |
Never |
Dream home: |
In a rain forest |
Politics: |
I have no interest in politics |
Retirement plans: |
Living in the country |
Feelings about using UrbanSocial: |
Hopeful |
Honesty: |
Extremely |